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أعطوا  at Skoun

أعطوا

وقتاً واهتماماً وحناناً وثقة لأولادكم

حدّدوا at Skoun

حدّدوا

قواعد وحدوداً واضحة

اعرفوا at Skoun

اعرفوا

ما هي أنواع المخدّرات المتواجدة، ما هي أشكالها وتأثيراتها

تظهر الدراسات أن العلاقة السليمة والآمنة والداعمة هي من الطرق الرئيسية التي تحثّ الأولاد على الاستماع إليكم وفتح قلبهم لكم.

تعلّموا أهمّية كلمة

تعلّموا أهمّية كلمة "كلّا"

تحلّوا بالحزم وساعدوا ابنكم المراهق على فهم نظامكم المحدد.

التفاوض at Skoun

التفاوض

أمنحوا أولادكم حسّ المسؤولية. استمعوا الى حاجاتهم وهمومهم. أظهروا احترامكم لمشاعرهم ثم عبّروا لهم عن مخاوفكم.

الثقة at Skoun

الثقة

تمتّعوا بالثقة وأنتم تساعدون أولادكم على تطوير ثقتهم بنفسهم. تقبّلوا أنّ ولدكم المراهق سيتعلّم من خبراته الشخصية. تنمّي الثقة حسّ المسؤولية والثقة بالنفس.

الحوار at Skoun

الحوار

الجؤوا الى الحوار في بيئة من الثقة والاحترام. استمعوا إلى أولادكم أولاً وهم يعبّرون عن أفكارهم ومشاعرهم. أمضوا وقتًا ممتعًا معهم وأنتم تتحدّثون، وتتناولون وجبات عائلية، وتقومون بنشاطات مشتركة وتتعرّفون على أصدقائهم. اكتشفوا ما يحبّون القيام به وانضمّوا إليهم.

أجوبة قد تبحثون عنها

In Lebanon (2017), 1 out of 5 students aged 13-15 reported having been drunk at least once. 4 out of 5 students reported drinking alcohol before the age of 14.

Once your child is sober, try to initiate dialogue. What did your teen drink? Who was your child with? What was the context? Did your teen want to fit in with their friends? Did your teen drive while under the influence? Was the driver drinking? Keep in mind that the occasional drunkenness can have serious consequences such as road accidents or unprotected sex.

Because alcohol is legal, it is safe and not a drug: False

Even though alcohol is legal as of age 18, it still is a powerful drug that can lead teens to act in ways they normally wouldn’t. It could put your teen at risk of accidents, violence, and aggression. Too much alcohol can also lead to alcohol poisoning, which can lead to comas or even death.
 

Alcohol use is a social norm: False

Not all young people drink. Even though consumption is usually acceptable, it should be kept under control.

Mixing energy drinks with alcohol is safer: False

Alcohol and energy drink mixes are unsafe as it could cause heart problems and increase dehydration. It also allows for prolonged drinking, thus increasing risks for road accidents.

Alcohol makes you happier and allows you to forget your troubles and self-consciousness: False

Even though alcohol can give the impression of euphoria and confidence, it doesn’t actually change anything about life circumstances. If anything, the situation can worsen as the effect wears off.

It is easy to control consumption even when drinking: False

Alcohol impairs judgment and increase risk of falling victim to unprotected sex, date rape, assault, and many other dangers.

What to avoid:

  • Disregarding the issue
  • Over-dramatizing your teen’s drunken episode
  • Allowing your child to drink at home
  • Drinking with them
  • Letting them go out without knowing where or with whom and without a set curfew

What to do:

  • Set the age limit for consumption
  • Offer to pick them up for parties or give them money for a cab
  • Set curfews
  • Discuss risks involved with alcohol
  • Know the names of your teen’s friends and their parents
  • Make your home an inviting place for your teen and friends to spend time

Cannabis is a commonly used drug in Lebanon. A first encounter does not immediately make the consumer an addict. However, the use of this substance should not be belittled or encouraged. Temptation or peer-pressure to try cannabis is likely to surround your teen in any environment away from home. Talk about drugs with your teen and their friends without making judgments. Prepare your responses in order to refute their arguments, which may include: “it is not toxic or addictive, it’s less dangerous than alcohol and cigarettes, and I can control it”. Try to focus on the downsides of cannabis that are not often discussed.

- Cannabis can disrupt your concentration, attention and memory.

- It can slow down thinking and reactions and hence increase risks of road accidents

- Cannabis can increase anxiety, nervousness, and paranoia

- Cannabis smokers are likely to have lung and throat problems including coughing, increased frequency of infection, reduced lung capacity, and cancer\

- Smoking cannabis regularly can decrease short-term memory and ability to learn new things, especially amongst younger smokers

- Regular smoking can lead to addiction. Solitary and daily consumption are causes for concern.

- Isolation and withdrawal

- Excessive curfew breaking

- Being overly secretive about whereabouts and friends

- Overspending or continuous need for more money

- Persistent lying

- Physical symptoms with no medical cause: diarrhea, vomiting, pain the joints, runny nose, weight loss or gain

- Too much or too little sleep

- Depression

- Irritability

- Lethargy after parties

- Demotivation

- Difficulty concentrating

- Loss of interest in hobbies and activities

- Change in friends

- Drop in grades

- Mood swings

- Presence of drug accessories or paraphernalia.

Please note that some of these symptoms can be due to other social reasons such as growing up, dealing with transitions (divorce, changing homes, etc), or presence of a mental disorder.

- Find the right time and place to talk: establish a series of conversations about the issue and accept that your first intervention will not solve the problem. Have the conversation when you are calm, and your teen is ready. Choose a quiet environment to aid the discussion as you speak clearly and calmly about the issues and your own thoughts and feelings.

- Set a desired outcome for your conversation.

- Prepare yourself for any reaction: Be willing to listen to what is said without interrupting even if it is painful to hear.

- Come from a place of care and concern, not anger or blame: Your concern should not be about punishing bad behavior. Try to suspend your judgment. Focus on the behavior, and not the person. Usually, it is more helpful to focus on the underlying problem than to place blame.

- Reach out to professionals: Seek help from a school counselor, psychotherapist, mental health professional, addiction counselor, or addiction treatment centers. They can help you and your child identify and discuss the issues behind the drug use. You can also seek help at Skoun.

There are some risks that you or your teen may not be aware of:

- Drug use compromises judgment, which may lead to engagement in dangerous behaviors with negative consequences. Examples include acquiring a sexually transmitted disease or road accidents.

- Drug use can have psychological effects including depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, or changes in personality. It can also affect the person’s ability to be productive, or lead a good-quality emotional, professional, and social life.

- All drugs can be addictive, including alcohol and cannabis when consumed regularly.

Tobacco use among youth in Lebanon is alarming. In Lebanon, 2 out of 5 students aged 13 to 15 have used any tobacco products. Tobacco contains more than 7000 chemicals of which 69 are cancerogenic. Therefore, Some common effects for both  Nargileh and cigarette smoking include: lung cancer, respiratory illnesses, impaired pulmonary functions, and heart diseases. Tobacco products constitute of different forms - cigarettes, cigars, cigarillo, dokha, and narguile- that can all be harmful to one’s health and well-being.

 

Did you know?

  • Individuals who start smoking cigarettes during adolescence are more prone to develop nicotine dependence and have trouble quitting.
  • Many people assume that narguile is harmless and that the water present in the pipes can act as a filter and remove toxins. However, one session of narguile smoking exposes users to a great level of tobacco toxins than one cigarette.